THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY…

n your life, you’ll make note of alot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones whowill always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the oneyou first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on apedestal, the one you’re with.. and the one that gotaway.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that personwith whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing wasjust wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in thechemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, Isuppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone,finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the otherperson. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even thegreater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with youbeing ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyondthe little niceties of giddyromance.
How often have you gonethrough it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit inthat mature manner, it doesn’t matter whom you’re with, it just doesn’twork. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakerssimply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and theperson you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, andlittle things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one dayyou’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready tosettle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect,theymight not be the brightest stars of romance to ever have burned in yourlife,but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the righttime and you’ll make it work. And it will make sense, it reallywill.
So that day comes when you’re finally making sense ofthings, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things aredifferent, your approach is different, you finally understand who you areand what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has trulyarrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come.Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship,you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All youknow is that you’ve changed, and for some reason,the one that got away, isthe person you think about.
You’ll think about them becauseyou’ll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You’ll wonder, "Whatif we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That’s what theone that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you’ll have in your life.
If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact thatthe one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you thinkyour marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefullyyou’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re withand this is just another test of your commitment, one which will juststrengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think abouthim/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a"might have been,"but it happens.
Maybe the one that got awayis the one who is already married. In which case it’s the same thing.You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person willprobably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’reold and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case,then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple….Find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away"means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got thatone?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, itdoesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from nowhere. You’d be surprised,you just might be the "one that got away" as well for the person who is your"the one that got away".
You might drop in from out of nowhereand it wont make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it willall just fall into place somehow and you know
I’m thinking, itwould be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Heyyou! You’re the one that almost got away".